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Go Green With gDiapers

baby, FAM By July 22, 2009 Tags: , , , , , , , 4 Comments

>Bye bye perfume, no more chlorine.  Flush them down and your life will be green..  Ok, so maybe not a great ditty, but we haven’t stopped singing since we tried these fabulous diapers.  A mix between cloth and disposables, the inner liner pops out and you can flush it – or get this… stick it in your compost bin to decompose within 3 months and give soil directly back to the earth.  (Add this to our fun list of things to do with kids in the garden).  For those of you who are mortally offended, not only by the landfill factor of using disposable diapers, but by constantly seeing Elmos and princesses on your dear one’s tush, these are the solution.

Jill Amery

Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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Famous Adopted People

FAM, kids By July 20, 2009 Tags: , , , No Comments

Adopted CelebritiesThere are many famous faces who have been adopted over the centuries.

Though by no means a complete list, there are many celebrities and thinkers who were raised by parents other than their biological ones. After reading this list of successful people, maybe you’ll want to get adopted too! (Or at least try your luck at first lady.)

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choosing the right sunscreen for your family

Choosing the best sunscreen for your family

FAM, health By June 16, 2009 Tags: , , , , , 5 Comments

Choosing the best sunscreen for your family isn’t easy. The number of brands – new and old – packing the shelves seems endless and researchers are constantly churning out new findings on what ingredients are deemed ‘good’ and ‘bad’ for our health. For safe, effective protection for your family, here are 7 tips to keep in mind when choosing your sunscreen this summer, from eco boutique Lavish & Lime.

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Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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Dealing With Grief After Pregnancy Loss

Dealing With Grief After Pregnancy Loss

FAM, pregnancy By April 22, 2009 Tags: , , , , , , , 1 Comment

Despite the fact that one third of first trimesters will end in miscarriage, it is a topic that stops us in our tracks. When dealing with grief after pregnancy loss, physically and emotionally, a woman and her partner need support and love through this difficult time. In Canada, we are blessed to have a number of services available to us to assist in coping, recovering and assessing our options. Griefworks says that “after the loss of a baby, there may be no satisfying answers. There may have been genetic, fetal, or external factors beyond anyone’s control – yours or your doctor’s. 

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Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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Warrior Birth

FAM, pregnancy By April 22, 2009 Tags: , , , , No Comments

Warrior Birth“Next time I’m just booking a cesarean.”
“My first birth was so traumatic – I want drugs the moment I start labour.”
“I can’t walk through the door of a hospital again.”
“I think we’d better adopt our second child.”

To all the women who say these words…
Please know that it wasn’t your fault.

Jill Amery

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How to handle high needs babies

How to Handle High Needs Babies

baby, FAM By April 13, 2009 Tags: , , , 3 Comments

I’m not a doctor.  I’m not an expert in infant development or behaviour.  In fact, before I had my own kids, I wasn’t even particularly drawn to little kids.  But, I’m a mom who has had two of these ‘high needs’ babies (granted, my second was much more so). I had never heard the term until my second child was a few months old, but when I saw the description a light bulb went off.  I wasn’t alone!  My baby wasn’t psychologically underdeveloped, emotionally stunted, spoiled, or difficult, just ‘high needs’.  Finally there was a way I could explain it to people, instead of just saying, “My baby is really, really fussy”.

But Aren’t All Babies ‘Needy’?

Perhaps the best way to describe what ‘high needs’ is, is to first explain what it is not.  Well meaning people (parents, at that!) may say, “Oh, all babies are high needs to some extent.  They are babies, after all”.  Other people think, “Surely you must be exaggerating…your baby can’t cry and fuss all day”.  Well, let me tell you – they most certainly can!

The term ‘high needs’ is simply a descriptive term given to any baby that requires a significant (above average) amount of holding, attention, movement or motion in order to prevent crying, screaming or fussing.

My High Needs Baby

I remember when our son was 4 weeks old and in the hospital with a respiratory virus.  Surprisingly, he screamed and cried less in those 4 days than in the previous month (perhaps because of all the action and activity going on?).  He actually laid still on the bed for a couple of minutes watching the TV.  My husband took a picture of him lying there, because it was a significant moment – That was the longest he had gone without crying since he was born (except when he was sleeping, of course).

Like our little guy, a high needs baby is not likely to drift peacefully off to sleep while you sing a lullaby, or sit happily in the stroller watching the world go by.  A high needs baby probably doesn’t entertain him or herself by playing quietly with toys, and likely doesn’t feed every 2.5-3 hours and then contentedly lay back and gaze up into her mother’s eyes. In fact, sometimes it may seem like your high needs baby is seldom content or happy.  And if you do find some little trick that works, chances are it won’t work next time.

What Makes a Baby High Needs?

Babies may be high needs because they are in pain or discomfort.  Perhaps there is a physical issue present, such as acid reflux, or an allergy or sensitivity to dairy or other foods.  And of course, many newborns go through a colicky stage, where they cry or scream, usually in the evening (but not always), usually appear to be in pain, and where soothing efforts may appear to be useless.  In some cases, a baby is high needs because of their temperament; the only sure way to tell if this is the case is if the fussiness doesn’t go away as your baby gets older.

I would consider babies experiencing any of these physical issues to be ‘high needs’.  Some would disagree because there is a clear cause to the crying. Regardless, these babies all have a few things in common: They cry excessively, are difficult to soothe, may have trouble sleeping or eating, and are very draining on their parents.

Characteristics of a High Needs Baby

Following are some of the characteristics of high needs babies.  All babies experience these issues from time to time.  High needs babies, on the other hand, experience these a majority of the time, and probably experience many of them at the same time.

The term ‘high needs’, as coined by Dr. Sears, is a term used to describe infants who have difficulty in many key areas, particularly in feeding, sleeping and transitions in general. Some of the characteristics of a high needs baby include:

  • Difficulty falling and/or staying asleep
  • Difficulty entertaining themselves
  • Excessive crying or fussing
  • Loud, intense crying or screaming (often for no apparent reason)
  • Difficulty feeding
  • Unpredictability
  • May be difficult or seemingly impossible to soothe
  • Demanding (may cry urgently when needs aren’t met immediately)
  • May need to be carried around constantly
  • May require movement or motion (e.g. a swing, car ride, etc.) to prevent crying
  • Reacts strongly to stimuli (both positive and negative)
  • High-energy
  • May require lots of activity/stimuli to remain entertained
  • May need the calm and familiarity of home to remain somewhat content

The verdict is out on whether or not high needs babies remain high needs.  Some extremely active, demanding babies become gentle and calm toddlers.  Others remain very busy, active, and persistent.

How Do I Cope with My High Needs Baby?

In my experience, half the battle is adjusting your thinking and accepting your baby as he or she is.  Realize that some babies just have a different temperament, and just need more attention right now.  Try to put aside the expectations and hopes you had for your baby when you were pregnant. Embrace the fact that your baby is who he is, but this isn’t how he will always be.

When your baby is screaming, strap her into the stroller, get yourself a coffee and go for a long walk. Don’t worry about your house looking perfect.  In a few months, you’ll have more time for that.  Arrange to have a babysitter a couple of times a week…don’t worry about your baby’s crying bothering the sitter. This is one day in her life, this is your every day. Order in dinner; the gourmet meals can wait a while.

But most of all, be gentle with yourself.  The expectations you may have had for what kind of mother you would be probably didn’t take into account having a high-needs baby.  Don’t expect that you’ll always have warm, fuzzy feelings towards your little one. Enjoy the quiet, happy times you do have together right now.  Find ways to get through it.  I promise, it will get easier.

Holly Klaassen is a mother of two and runs an excellent resource site for parents of fussy babies.

www.fussybaby.ca

Jill Amery

Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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Guilty as Charged: Becoming Your Child's Best Bet

FAM, health By March 16, 2009 Tags: , , No Comments

Guilt – that feeling as a parent that hangs over you at times, feeling inadequate and sometimes lost, wondering if you really are the answer to your child’s needs. If somehow you could only find the right parenting book that could show you the way through and provide the answers, because really, something must be terribly wrong if you feel so guilty?  Right?

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Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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Drugs and Breastfeeding

FAM, health By February 7, 2009 Tags: , , , No Comments

It is difficult to avoid the use of all prescription drugs while breastfeeding – especially if you are having multiple children and nursing for a length of time with each one. And then there are the street drugs that nobody speaks of. If you are in the habit of using these when you become pregnant, you may need assistance and some honest research to prove how harmful they can be. As with any medical questions in pregnancy and during breastfeeding, your doctor or midwife will know more about your personal history and circumstances than any website, but it is always good to gain as much knowledge as possible in order make the ultimate decision about the health of your baby.

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Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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Induction Concerns

FAM, pregnancy By February 1, 2009 Tags: , , , , 1 Comment

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Here’s a little excerpt from an article by Dr. Michel Odent, noted French obstetrician.  “According to traditional wisdom in rural France, a baby in the womb should be compared to fruit on the tree. Not all the fruit on the same tree is ripe at the same time. A fruit that has been picked before it is ripe will never be fit to eat and will quickly go bad. It is the same with a baby.

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Jill Amery is a mom of 2 small boys and the Publisher of UrbanMommies, a stylish digital lifestyle magazine filled with fitness, style, health, recipes and savvy mom advice to help you through pregnancy, birth, and raising your kids.

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