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Why Kids Need Structure

FAM, kids By May 18, 2013 Tags: , , , , , 1 Comment

My friends were exhausted. And for good reason. They have a 4 year old and a 1 year old, commute to work, and have to walk the dog. But, wait. Haven’t many people gotten through that? Looking at their tired eyes, and seeing them deal with their children, I remembered numerous episodes of Nanny 911. Structure helps everyone. Many a time I saw the nanny implement the ‘families sit down to eat dinner’ rule. ‘Everyone sleeps in their own bed’ soon followed. I always thought this simply provided structure just for the kids, but seeing this struggling family without much structure for children, it all made sense.

The routine provides clear decision making (or limits the need to make decisions) for parents. It eliminates guilt (I decided last year not to give in to tantrums, and this is a tantrum, therefore I shouldn’t feel guilty for not doling out another cookie) and it assists with family unity. Dinner being ready at 6, all sitting around a table facilitates conversation, and also allows duties such as washing up to follow. With bedtime, when parents can never have the same routine twice or depend on sleep for themselves or their children, a cranky family ensues.

Routines give kids a sense of security and help them develop self-discipline.  Children also naturally fear the unknown, and structure will allow them to handle change within a context of the ‘known’.  These little minds and bodies change daily and the familiar acts as a comfort.

The possibility of handing kids to babysitters and having them be put to sleep without a set routine is stressful and often ruins an evening that you are paying quite a bit for. Leave it to a night when you are exhausted for the toddler to decide not to go to bed, or to get up every 30 minutes. If you don’t have a fairly stricy routine for this, the child gets mixed messages. Parents should be able to parent – to make the decisions and be the ‘alphas’ in their family. Children crave this structure, and look for role models.

We have so much clutter in our brains and structure can eliminate all of those extra decisions.  So get out the calendar and a timer and relax!


Homelife by DayTimer

LIVE, rest By October 10, 2011 Tags: , , 1 Comment

My family has been trying this new scheduling system by Daytimer.  Shopping lists, todos, and by-the-person scheduling pages.  The best part?  My hubby’s firewall (that blocks Google calendar) allows this system, and the printable schedule pages are amazing (and tidy) for the fridge.  Every family member gets their own colour and section, and you can also overlay everyone’s pages on the ‘family’ calendar.  The web-based functionality allows even family members across the country keep tabs on the family schedule.

The address book was easily importable from outlook and Google, and todos could be shared by all family members.  (Cut the grass.  Please.)

It is free, and easily accessible on any computer or smartphone.  The only drawback was that there was not a dedicated iPhone or Blackberry app for the product which would allow for perfect synchronicity.  But that being said?  My husband is updating his own stuff, and.. the grass is cut.

– UrbanMommies has received product compensation for this post however as always, our opinions are our own.


Family Meal Planner

eat, LIVE By September 15, 2010 Tags: , , , , , , , No Comments

Do you hit the grocery store at 4pm with screaming kids and gray hairs emerging by the minute?  Try our new Family Meal Planner.  With days of the week across the top and even a space to plan snacks, you can make it part of your weekly routine, and even incorporate some of our fab family recipes.  Family Meal Planner. Bon Appetit!